All too often, television and social media depict a vision of the ‘perfect’ Christmas, an unrealistic ideal which can be difficult for any of us to live up to. With a focus on the ‘perfect’ celebrations involving food and drinks, the festive period can be particularly challenging for those coping with an eating disorder.
There are some plans and actions we can take to help ease worries and BEAT, the eating disorder charity, has also developed a set of tips to help people cope over Christmas and make the festivities more manageable and enjoyable for those affected by eating disorders.
For families supporting a loved one with an eating disorder at Christmas, there can be many and complex challenges and preparing for these can be very important. It’s important too to acknowledge how different members of the family might be feeling at Christmas including perhaps what might be making them concerned or frightened. That might include feeling overwhelmed by the focus on food at this time of year, or eating with other people or eating foods they would normally avoid.
Everyone might be feeling under pressure to have that ‘perfect’ time and might be feeling reluctant to talk about any potential negative subjects in the run-up to this ‘happy’ time. However, talking in advance about those worries and concerns can be really helpful.
Trying not to spend too much time on social media can also help, as can taking part in enjoyable traditions like choosing the tree, decorating it, going for a walk or going shopping. These can take the emphasis away from the big ‘Christmas dinner’ element of the festivities.
Getting together with loved ones or relatives over Christmas can also a source of challenge when someone is struggling with an eating disorder. Are there ways to celebrate which do not focus on sitting down to eat a meal together or are less formal than the big ‘dinner’?
Anyone coping with an eating disorder at Christmas is likely to be feeling anxious about the Christmas meal and their loved ones may be worrying about the meal too. It is very helpful to discuss and agree on portions and strategies in advance.
And if you or your loved one is struggling to cope with Christmas and want to talk to someone the BEAT helpline is available. Their Helpline services will be open 4pm – Midnight from 24 December to 3 January.